If you are angry be silent

Have you heard that before- Be silent when in Anger? Do you agree to it?
I do not. First and foremost, like I have been saying, live in present to be happy. Anger is a feeling associated with past. It is never associated with the present.
Having said that, if you are angry/hurt, it means something/somebody provoked you to be angry. Then why should you be silent? Simply because, you should not utter something out of anger that you may regret later. So that you should not hurt anyone else. Cmmon! why should you live in hurt and anger?
I say, if you are angry, speak up. Let it be out of your system. Do not let the other party get away by hurting you, making you sad or angry. Do not be silent. One of my friend says, "tension lene ka nahin. Tension dene ka." It means do not take tension (stress). Give it. In other words, like I say, "Love yourself the most." Do not be timid, frightened, angry, hurt, disturbed, stressed, depressed, sobbing, sulking, etc. Burst out, if you must. And then chill. Once you have taken it out of your system, expressed yourself loud and clear, move ahead.
Never start a fight. Never. But if the other person starts it, provokes you, makes you angry, then do not be silent. Give a nice befitting reply with your choicest words and actions. In other words- never give sh** to any one. But do not take it from anyone either.

Maxi mized at the manor

After a long time, I was free today. And I have a free weekend (partially) that I am looking forward to.

So I went to my favorite restaurant, The Indian Accent, in the manor. The chef served me my special navratra food.

I wore my Burberry maxi that I have worn earlier here. I really enjoyed the food and the company.

Awesome food. This is not mine.

This aaloo chat is mine.

This is served in the end- called school time memories. It has chikki, ram laddo, aam papad and fatafat. Only Indians would know this. 

New Fitness equipment for getting in shape

To respect or not to respect your elders

We Indians are taught a lot about- Respect your elders. I do not know how this applies to other cultures and nations. So my this post is very specific to Indians and to people who are above 20 years. Not to small children.

I might sound too defiant. But truth be told. I do not propagate, "respect your elders" blindly. In the following situations when elders are wrong, DO NOT respect them. Stand up and speak against them. You will not be wrong. You will rather be right.
Do not show elders any undue respect if they

1. Abuse you- in any which way- verbally, physically, mentally, emotionally.
2. Nag you unnecessarily
3. Taunt you.
4. Have unrealistic expectations from you
5. When they just simply "want to be respected" for no rhyme and reason. Or just because they were born few years ahead of you.

In these situations, stand up for yourself, speak up, answer back (harshly if needed. Respect be damned).
First and foremost respect yourself, your integrity, your worth, the person who you are. Because only you are responsible for your own happiness. Do not let such elders (whatever the relation be), ruin you or your happiness.
Some of our elders are becoming control freaks. They either take the advantage of their age or their relationship to you. The more you "obey" them, the more they tighten the noose around you. They expect you to be docile and spineless. No. Do not be. Do not take any Sh..  from anyone, however elder he or she may be. They have to earn that respect and not command it. If they refuse to move ahead with times, you cannot be standing with them and let your time and opportunities pass by, simply because you were taught to respect your elders. If they cannot be humble, forgiving, modest, understanding, blessing, supporting, then....you know what to do. We all have one life to lead. Till when can you please such an elder and cause pain and agony to your own self?

By no means I am propagating being disrespectful, non caring, egoist person. NO. All I am saying is respect a person if he/she is worthy of it. Not because he/she is elder. And do not take negativity lying low and let it go.

*** Special note to elders, including my own self.

Younger generation these days is not wrong. You are. Stop complaining and whining. If you feel, that younger generation is not giving you, your due respect, try to find fault in your own self and not in them. They are not heartless, insensitive, insensible. They do want you, your love, care and your blessings. They are ready to bond with you. But if you constantly shun them, criticize them, control them, blame them, pressurize them, then they have no option but to avoid you.You need to be more open minded, more receiving and even more giving. Try to understand their view points and their stressful life. Appreciate their efforts. Try to be happy in their happiness. Give them your love and support unconditionally and without expecting anything in return. Stop being control freaks because no one likes and wants to be controlled. Express your opinion not your resentments. Stop sulking, frowning, stop being angry for no reason and expecting them to be subservient to you. They will not be. They need not be. Stop holding on to your past grudges. Be more forgiving and liberal. You respect them and in return you will earn their respect.

Pronunciation of designer labels

If you wanna wear branded stuff, better learn how to pronounce them right!

I really cannot stand people who cannot pronounce brands properly and they still dare to show off that they have a “LO-WE” or a “HER-MIS” bag… gosh!

http://www.stylecritics.com/celebrities/2007/01/11/dont-be-an-amateur-say-it-right/

If you can’t get the spelling below, have a listen ->http://fashion.about.com/cs/designers/l/blpronounce.htm

A

Alessandro Dell’Acqua Del-LAK-wa

Anna Sui SWEE

Anne Demeulemeester Ahn Deh-MUH-le-mees-ter

Anteprima On-tay-pre-ma

Agnes B. Ahn-NYAS Buh

Atelier ah-tell-ee-ay

Azzedine Alaia Aza-deen A-LYE-a

B

Balenciaga Bah-LEN-see-aga

Bally BAH-li

Balmain Bahl-MAH

Baume & Mercier Bom ee Mer-SEE-yay

Behnaz Sarafpour Beh-naz Sa-RAH-furr

Braun Buffel Brohn Byu-furl

Bruno Magli BROO-no MAL-yi

Bottega Veneta BO-te-ga Ve-NE-tah

Boucheron Boo-ke-ron

Burberry BURR-behr-ri

Bvlgari Bull-gah-ree

Byblos BEEB-los

C

Chacharel KA-sha-rel

Cartier KAR-ti-yay

Celine: s seh-lyn

Cerruti Cher-RU-tee

Cesare Paciotti CHE-sa-ray Pa-chi-YO-ti

Chanel Sha-NEL

Chantal Thomas SHAN-tal To-MAH

Charles Jourdan Sharls Zhor-DHUN

Charriol SHA-ri-yol

Chloe KLOH-eh

Chopard Sho PAR

Christian Loboutin kris-tian loo-boo-tan (soft N)

Christian Lacroix Christian LAH-kwa

Claude Montana Kload Mohn-TA-na

Comme des Garcons Kom deh GHAR-sohng

Coccinelle KOH-chee-nel-li

Costume National KOHS-tyum NAH-sho-nal

Courreges Koo-REZH

Cynthia Rowley Cynthia RAO-li

D

Dolce & Gabbana DOL-cheh and Ge-BA-na

Donna Karan Donna Kah-ren

Dries Van Noten Dress Vahn NOH-tehn

E

Elie Saab EH-li Zahb

Emanuel Ungaro Ee-MAN-noo-el OON-Gah-ro

Emilio Pucci Ehm-ee-lee-o Poo-chee

Emporio Armani Em-POHR-yo AR-mah-ni

Erotokritos arrow-toe-kri-tose

Ermenigildo Zegna Ehr-MAN-ni-jil-do ZEY-na

Etro EHT-tro

Etienne Aigner Eight-YEN AHG-neigh

F

Faconnable FAH-so-nahb

G

Georg Jensen Yorg YEN-sen

Gianfranco Ferre ZHAN-franck-o Feh-REH

Gianni Versace Jee-YAN-nee Ver-SA-chee

Givenchy ZHEE-von-shee

Gucci GOO-chi

Guy Laroche Gee Lah-Rosh

H

Hedi Slimane EH-di Sli-MAHN

Helmut Lang HEL-moot Lung

Hermes Air-h-MEZZ

Herve Leger Er-VEY Le-ZHAY

Hussein Chalayan HOO-sayn CHA-layan

I

Issey Miyake EES-say Mi-YA-kay

J

Jacques Fath Zhack Faht

Jaeger-Lecoultre Yay-ger Leh-KOOT

Jean-Charles de Castlebajac Zhan-Sharls de KA-sel-ba-zhak

Jean Louis Scherrer Zhan LOO-ee She-REHR

Jean Paul Gaultier Zhon Paul GOL-tee-yay

L

Lanvin Lahn-VAWN

Les Copains Leh KHO-pang

Loewe Lo-EH-veh

Longchamp Long-shum

Longines LOHN-jeens

Louis Ferraud LOO-ee Fay-YOH

Louis Vuitton LOO-ee Vui-TOHNG

M

Mainbocher Men-bo-SHAY

Marithé et François Girbaud Mah-ri-TAY eh Frans-SUAH Jeer BOW

Martin Margiela Marr-JEL-la

Manolo Blahnik Ma-no-low Blah-nick

Martine Sitbon Marh-TIN Si-BOHN

Miu Miu Myu Myu

Moet et Chandon Moe-ET A shan-don (soft N)

Monique Lhuillier Moe-neek Lu-lee-ay

Moschino Mos-KI-no

N

Narciso Rodriguez Nar-SEE-so-Rod-RI-gehz

Nicholas Ghesquire NI-ko-la GEHS-kyerr

Olivier Theyskens Oh-LI-vi-yay THIGH-skens

P

Piaget Pya-jay

Piazza Sempione Pi-YAT-za Sem-pi-YO-ni

Pierre Balmain Pyerr BAHL-mahn

Pierre Cardin Pyerr Kar-DOHN

Plain Sud Plan Sood

POLECI policy

Proenza Schouler Pro-EHN-za SHOO-ler

R

Ralph Lauren Ralph LO-ren

Rochas RHO-shas

Romero Gigli Romeo JEE-li

S

Salvatore Ferragamo Sal-va-TOH-reh Fehr a-GAH-mo

Sonia Rykiel REEK-ki-yel

T

Thierry Mugler TEh-ree MOOH-gleh

Tiiu Kiuk tee-you Quick

Thomas Maier TOH-mas MAH-yer

V

Veronique Branquinho Ve-ro-NEEK BRANG-ki-no

X

Xuly Bët ZUH-li Bet

Y

YSL Rive Gauche YSL Reev Gosh

Yves Saint Laurent Eev Sahn Lor-UHN

Salsa vs Tango

It is natural for non dancers to compare Salsa and Tango. People can be either "salsa people" or "Tango people" like some people love cat others love dogs. One cannot and should not try to compare or choose one over the other as to which is better than the other. It is just like comparing Indian Classical dances, Kathak vs Bharatnatyam and asking which is better. Both are unique and fabulous in their own way. And person who does one form would find that form more for him/her. For a layman/ an audience/a spectator,  Salsa has more visual appeal. But Tango has more appeal for the doer. Once you are yourself doing and feeling it, you start understanding the connection, the embrace etc. Just like swimming- you cannot stand outside the pool and watch a person swim and understand what he/she is experiencing inside. You have to do it, get inside the pool, get wet and feel it to know what it is all about. Both are social dances.

Salsa is more of a fun dance, a party dance. It's kind of an open dance, in that the couple don't embrace, instead they hold one or both hands, changing often. It's a non-travelling dance - they don't travel around the floor, they dance in one spot, swapping back and forth, doing turns and spins, etc. There's a lot of spinning. Girls will spend a *lot* of time spinning. There's also often a lot of hip wiggling, but that depends partly on which kind of salsa you learn.

Tango is a more serious dance - not a party dance like salsa - tango music tends to be quite sad. As a dance, it's more intimate, tender and emotional. It is danced very close, the couple embrace closely. It is a travelling dance, you move around the dance floor anticlockwise. It is basically a walking hug, but as you get more proficient you can learn fancier stuff if you want. Contrary to popular opinion, it is *not* overtly 'sexy'. Just intimate.Both are danced socially - people go to salsa clubs and milongas to dance for fun. 

In the words of Vanja Modzelewski, "I love the sadness, the melancholy, the drama, the passion and the yearning in tango music and I seek to express that in my dancing. Tango is a complete world of emotions, many of which stay invisible for the observers, but are clearly shared between the people dancing it. Watching tango is not the same as dancing it: It's like watching an ice cream cone with it's beautiful colors versus eating the ice cream and being able to appreciate it for its essence. That's why, if you were ever interested in tango, don't just admire it - do it! What we do in shows is quite far away from how we dance on the social dance floor. The first is for athletes, the second is for everybody. Everybody who can hug, can tango. :)"

It actually takes a lot of time for one to understand Tango music and get to appreciate it. For party hoppers, it appears very sad and gloomy. But once you start appreciating it, you cannot go back to any other form.

Milonga de mis amores- 2

If you follow me on facebook, you would know that NDTS- New Delhi Tango School has started it milonga- milonga de mis amores. Yesterday was the opening night in collaboration with internations. The workshop I did for the members of internations was so well received. Many people registered for our regular classes.