Disclaimer: This blog post is not personal. I am very happily married with my husband who has no other woman in his life. My husband is not a smoker either. This blog has references of other people I know.
Princess Diana said, "There were three of us in the marriage. So it was a bit crowded." Words spoken so simply and state of fact. Yet, they ring a bell. We have all heard of relationships where there are more than just the two. What is it to be in a relationship that is wee bit too crowded? How would a woman feel when she plans a date and finds that her man has brought another woman too. In fact, he picks her up and brings her along and she comes wearing his shirt. If he does not bring her along, she finds him messaging her and apologizing to her or telling her that it would have been better had she also been there. Or when they have an argument, he goes and confides in another woman. Not just confide but even seeks her opinion. Not just seek her opinion, but his opinion about her, is based on what this other woman has to say. Or when she gets to know that at times this woman gives him a massage.
How does a woman deal with a situation when her man spends more time with another women because they work together? When she calls him at midnight, she finds that the two of them are together- "sitting and talking". Whenever she plans to spend the night with him, she knows that the other woman will be there in the other room. In a party, her man is more with this other woman than with her because they are smoking buddies and hence they are gone away while she sits waiting for him. When she tells him to quit smoking, he promises that he will never smoke in front of her. Then this other woman lights up his cigarette for him and he accepts in front of her. When she sees that this other woman is more suited to him than her own self because she readily bears his tantrums, while she cannot. The two have known each other for much longer than she has known him. So much so that he split with his X girlfriend because of this other woman. She is that powerful in his life.
Such relationships can break you and finish you. Two is a company and three is a crowd. It takes only two to Tango. You might love this man a lot but eventually, all you will get is, hurt. Have the courage to say NO. Life is to be simplified and not made complicated. You had rather be alone, feel unloved and lonely than be in a relationship and still feel the same.
Princess Diana said, "There were three of us in the marriage. So it was a bit crowded." Words spoken so simply and state of fact. Yet, they ring a bell. We have all heard of relationships where there are more than just the two. What is it to be in a relationship that is wee bit too crowded? How would a woman feel when she plans a date and finds that her man has brought another woman too. In fact, he picks her up and brings her along and she comes wearing his shirt. If he does not bring her along, she finds him messaging her and apologizing to her or telling her that it would have been better had she also been there. Or when they have an argument, he goes and confides in another woman. Not just confide but even seeks her opinion. Not just seek her opinion, but his opinion about her, is based on what this other woman has to say. Or when she gets to know that at times this woman gives him a massage.
How does a woman deal with a situation when her man spends more time with another women because they work together? When she calls him at midnight, she finds that the two of them are together- "sitting and talking". Whenever she plans to spend the night with him, she knows that the other woman will be there in the other room. In a party, her man is more with this other woman than with her because they are smoking buddies and hence they are gone away while she sits waiting for him. When she tells him to quit smoking, he promises that he will never smoke in front of her. Then this other woman lights up his cigarette for him and he accepts in front of her. When she sees that this other woman is more suited to him than her own self because she readily bears his tantrums, while she cannot. The two have known each other for much longer than she has known him. So much so that he split with his X girlfriend because of this other woman. She is that powerful in his life.
Such relationships can break you and finish you. Two is a company and three is a crowd. It takes only two to Tango. You might love this man a lot but eventually, all you will get is, hurt. Have the courage to say NO. Life is to be simplified and not made complicated. You had rather be alone, feel unloved and lonely than be in a relationship and still feel the same.
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