If you feel like fighting, then fight.

If you feel like fighting, then fight. And if you want to slap someone, slap with a smile; not with anger - that makes you weak. When you hit with a smile, you will hit with a lot of strength. That is why the prescribed approach is, 'Saama, Daana, Bheda, Danda.'

If you start off with a stick that is not right. When you become angry, you will pick up the stick first. That would reverse everything. No, Saama, Daana, Bheda, and at the very end, if a cane is appropriate for the buffalo, then one should pick up a cane - Sri Sri

10 Things to give up to be happy

We hold on to many things and that is the cause of our suffering and unhappiness. If you give up certain things, you will be much more happier and life would be much more easier. We cling to a lot of unnecessary things. Try to give up following things and see how life becomes smoother.

1. Give up living your life to other people's expectations- Stop being stuck in an image. You do not have to be perfect. You want to be the best mother, wife, daughter, daughter in law, etc etc. Give up trying to impress everyone. Stop trying so hard to please and stop putting that mask. If you live more natural self, people will be more impressed by you. You are living life the way others want you to live. For once, live it the way you want to live without caring for society. Listen to your inner voice and your inner calling. Try not to please everyone and living up to their expectation. Live for yourself NOW. You have this one life. Why to think twice while living it? Don't let other people own your life, take charge of it or control it.

2. Give up past- Do not delude yourself. Past is over. It is history. Live in present. NOW. Do not let feelings like sadness, guilt, anger- the feelings associated with past, interfere and ruin your present.

3. Give up excuses- In Hindi we have a saying, naach na jaane aangan terha. Which loosely describes the excuses one makes. Take charge and responsibility of the situation. Do not make excuses- not even with your own self. Grow, work on yourself and improve your life instead of getting stuck and playing blame game on situation, people around you, your limitations etc. Work each and every situation towards your advantage. Do not give up. Do not be a looser.

4. Give up attachment- Get detached. Read my post about it here. Attachment brings fear. Attachment with things, people, place etc is not good. Attachment is not same as love. Because in love, you have no fear. In love you are peaceful, serene, calm and composed.

5. Give up fear- Fear is a feeling associated with future. In present, there is no fear. Live in present. Fear is an illusion. It does not exist. It is all created by the mind. If you bring your mind to NOW state, there is no  fear.

6. Give up resistance to change- Change is a law of nature. Whatever you resist, shall persist. Hence, do not resist change. Change will help you improve and grow. Embrace the change. Do not become, what we call in Hindi, "lakeer ke fakeer".

7. Give up complaining- Stop complaining about people around you, life around you, your country, your system, your city, your politicians. Either attempt to change what you are not happy with. If you cannot, accept people and situations the way they are. Nobody and no situation can make you unhappy unless you allow it to. Have positive thinking.

8. Give up thinking that "it is impossible"- Nothing is impossible, thinking makes it so. Impossible says- I M Possible. Give up thinking about what you cannot do. Spread your wings and fly. Mind over body and matter. Once you have a resolve to make it happen, it will happen. Read another post here.

9. Give up the negative thoughts- We believe the negative and not the positive. Whereas, it should be vice versa. If someone criticizes you, doubt that. But if someone compliments you, positively accept that. Do not have self defeating self talk. Give up negative, polluted and self defeating mind set.

10. Give up giving explanations- They never work. All you end up doing is get into an unnecessary argument. You owe it only to your own self. Explanations are unnecessary.

My quote in Hindustan Times

My quote about "being addicted to multi Vitamins", appeared in Hindustan Times, dated 29th April, 2012. It can be read online here.

It says

Kiran Sawhney, makeover and image consultant says that the pressure of looking good all the time also leads to vitamin obsession.

“Young girls often resort to multi-vitamins as a short cut to beauty, and end up with various disorders,” she says.

Peacocks in Jahanpanah forest

I have done blog posts on Jahanpanah forest here and here before. When I went for my 7 km track, to Jahanpanah forest again, this Saturday, I spotted these peacocks. They ran away, before I could take their better pictures.

My nail art

I had just freshly painted it. I clicked the pictures, without even cleaning the edges. Hence, it looks little messy.

Designer Gautam Gupta's spring summer collection launch

It was unveiling of designer Gautam Gupta's spring summer wear and Varda Goenka's jewelery with Delhi Dare Devils team in De Villa, Hauz Khas Village.

Seen with me Ramola Bachchan

Seen below with me, Vandana Vadhera, Dr. Varun Katyal and the acting Ambassador of Lebanon.

Make up artist, Sylvie.

My picture in another blog

Check my picture which is published here.

Partying at Lap

Yesterday we were at Shiro and then LAP. Seen in the picture below, they are diplomats from the embassy of Lebanon, Malta and Mexico. No names mentioned to respect their privacy. 

Kiran Sawhney in Delhi Age today

This picture of mine got published in Delhi age today.

Ardour launch party

It was the launch of restaurant called Ardour in Connaught place, Delhi. It was a good evening spent amongst socializing with friends. 

I hate people who hate Delhi

I have some VERY STRONG feelings about Delhi/India. I have said so many times in the past, I am very proud of my city and my country. I am very patriotic. I actually love my city, my life here, the roads, the infrastructure, the system, the weather, the people, EVERYTHING about it. And I dislike, no I think I HATE it if someone/anyone talks about it in any derogatory term. You do not like my city, please get out of here. Because I do not like you staying here, enjoying its comforts and condemning it. I do not like it when NRI's not staying here, not knowing the facts, condemn it.
I have not come across any other nationality, who talks in derogatory manner about their own country. Why do we Indians do that? And on top of it feel PROUD to anathematize our own country and system. Do you think that by adjudging it, you become superior? You definitely fall in my eyes, if not your own. What do I say to my fellow Indian/fellow Delhite, who addresses me as, "you bloody Indians", addresses my city as "your God forsaken city", addresses my people as, "waahiyaat log" (meaning- horrible people)? In Hindi we have a saying, "Jis Thaali mein khaaya usi mein ched kiya". Loosely translated in English, it means, "hurt the very same hand that feeds you."
I have no patience for any such Indian. Even my blog has no patience to go on and on about such a topic.
Are the other parts of the world PERFECT- completely crime free, no corruption, clean politicians? Then what is stopping you from leaving my city and going to your perfect place? 

Meeting my girls over lunch

Meeting girlfriends over lunch is very rejuvenating. I would let the pictures do more talking about the bubbly, spirited, fun filled and joyous time we spent together.

What I am wearing:

Dress: Bought in Buenos Aires

Heels: Miss Sixty

Delhi Milonga

Yesterday night was another milonga. It was vibrant and fun.

What I wore:

Everything bought in Buenos Aires

Dress: Tango dress

Flower brooch and heels: Greta flora

Be vegetarian

We consume the carcasses of creatures of like appetites, passions and organs with our own, and fill the slaughterhouses daily with screams of pain and fear. ~Robert Louis Stevenson, (1850-1894)

Yours Truly is in HT City today.